How to Find Your Purpose — When "What Is My Life For?" Has No Clean Answer

Purpose Is Built, Not Found

The "find your purpose" framing is misleading in a specific way: it implies that purpose exists prior to you, as a thing to be located. As if there's a map and you just haven't read it correctly yet.

What the research on meaning and flourishing actually suggests is closer to the opposite. Purpose tends to be built through engagement — through paying attention to what you find yourself drawn toward, what problems you care about solving, what kinds of work or relationship or contribution leave you feeling more alive rather than more depleted. It emerges from activity and reflection, not from stillness and discovery.

This reframe matters because it changes what you do when you don't know your purpose. Instead of searching for the answer, you pay attention to what's already happening in you. What do you notice? What irritates you in a way that suggests you care about the thing that's being done badly? What do you keep coming back to even when it's inconvenient?

The Purpose Pressure

There's a particular pressure around purpose that deserves to be named: the cultural expectation that a meaningful life looks like a calling. That the people who have "figured it out" are doing work that is both financially sustaining and personally meaningful and socially valued and fully aligned with who they are.

This is a small minority of human experience, and it's probably overrepresented in the media you consume.

Most people live meaningful lives through a combination of sources — some work that's good enough and provides, relationships that matter, contributions that don't carry a brand or a vision statement. Meaning is not reserved for those who've identified their life's purpose. It's available in the texture of how you move through ordinary days, the attention you bring to the people around you, the small things you do well and with care.

This doesn't mean ambition is wrong, or that seeking work that's more aligned with who you are isn't worth pursuing. It is. But loosening the grip of "I need to find my purpose" can sometimes be what makes genuine direction possible.

When the Question Is Actually Something Else

The question "what is my purpose?" often arrives as a substitute for a more specific, more uncomfortable question. Sometimes it's: am I in the wrong career? Sometimes it's: is this relationship right for me? Sometimes it's: I've achieved the things I was supposed to want and I'm not satisfied — what does that mean? Sometimes it's simply: I'm lost, and I don't know what I want, and I need somewhere to start.

These are different questions with different answers. Getting to them requires some honesty about what the purpose question is actually pointing at.

Asclepiad is designed for exactly this kind of honest exploration. Maia will be curious about what's underneath the question — what's prompting it, what it's pointing at, what matters to you when you strip away the should and the expectation. She won't provide the answer. But she'll be there in the looking.

The old myths know this territory too — the hero who leaves the familiar world not knowing the destination, who discovers through the journey what they were looking for. Purpose, in most narrative traditions, reveals itself through movement and encounter, not through prior certainty.

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